Birth Story of Xanthie
August 5th, 2013
7 lbs 12 oz and 20 in
I think Xanthie was trying to outdo her sister, but didn’t quite make it! Aisling was 10 days late, but Xanthie didn’t quite make it that long. She arrived 7 days after her due date. In this home, the boys seem to arrive early and the girls late! 😉 I guess they need the extra gestational time for beauty sleep!
This labor was super fast, which I kind of expected and secretly hoped for, but it was definitely faster than I thought. Still VERY intense, but so relieved to have it completed so quickly!
So to start at the very beginning on Saturday the 3rd we had the day completely free and it was so nice not to have any plans to be able to spend time together as a family. It looked like it was going to rain in the morning, so we decided to go to the mall and walk and then let the kiddos play in the playground area. We did walk the perimeter of the mall… both floors, but unfortunately they were remodeling so the kids area was completely torn up.
The kids were disappointed, but we certainly didn’t have the meltdown that I partially expected. We had a gift card for Chipotle, so we decided to leave the mall and drive around the corner to get some lunch and do some more walking around Fairfax Corner since the sun had decided to come out. We walked some more and then listened to some live music in the square and let the kids play in the water fountain.
It was so nice not having a schedule and just letting the day play out. I really didn’t get any contractions out of all the walking which is what I was hoping for, but I did lose part of my mucus plug that night… so I guess I did get a little something out of all the walking!
Sunday we went to church in the morning and then enjoyed a relaxing afternoon with my parents at their house and with my sister and her family who were in town from Kentucky. It was great seeing them and enjoying another beautiful day! I think it was only in the 70s which is unheard of for August in Northern VA!
I felt a little crampy… just that the braxton hicks were stronger, but nothing anywhere close to anything I’d call labor. They weren’t regular at all and wouldn’t even say they were painful. My Mom was on call to take the kids when labor did start so I contemplated leaving them for the night, but didn’t think I was that close to having a baby that they should stay.
Then early Monday morning around 3:45/4am I awoke having to go the the bathroom which is a little abnormal for me. Usually I don’t have to wake up until 5am or after, but I didn’t think too much of it. However, once I got back in bed I couldn’t go back to sleep. I started having contractions that were 10 minutes apart. Just like period cramps. I still wouldn’t have even said they were painful… just annoying enough I couldn’t get back to sleep. I woke Brian at 5am and let him know that I thought we were gonna have a baby sometime before lunch time! So I asked him to start filling the pool to make sure it was ready for when I was ready to get in. 5:30 I called my Mom and asked her to pick up the kids around 6:30 so that she wouldn’t get stuck in rush hour traffic.
When she got there around 6:30 my contractions were about 4-5 minutes apart and only about 30-45 seconds long, and uncomfortable, but not intensely painful. In fact I found out later that Mom told my sister she didn’t think I had any contractions the whole time she was there to get the kids. She hung around til about 7am. As soon as Mom left with the three kids the contractions increased to 2 minutes apart and still not intense, but stronger.
I called Peggy and was able to have a normal conversation with her through the contractions. She wanted to know if I wanted her to come now. I said it was up to her. I didn’t feel like she needed to be here, but I also said that once I wasn’t the one calling her because the intensity had increased… by that point she probably wouldn’t make it. So she said she would get ready to head out.
Things started to increase and at 7:45 they were strong enough that I got in the pool and didn’t really want to carry on a conversation with anyone. Grunts and one word answers was about all anyone could hope for! Brian was still finishing up a few things and adding a bit more hot water to the pool. At 8am Michelle and her 3 month old Hope arrived. I was glad they were here. Brian then hopped in the pool with me and I was so glad to have him there.
The midwives still weren’t there and I could tell it wouldn’t be too much longer. I had two really strong contractions though which I could feel Xanthie’s head moving down through my pelvis. I remembered feeling the same when Aisling was born and was hopeful it wouldn’t be too much longer. During the second of those two contractions Mayanne arrived. At the end of the contraction she asked if i wanted to be checked and I said no. I knew the head was right there and I wanted to push with the next contraction.
Next one came and I pushed and her head emerged. I said something to that fact and Brian said Mayanne looked at her gloves and then at me and back at the gloves and then just came over to the pool! Next contraction shoulders and the rest of her were born. 8:33 Mayanne arrived and 8:36 Xanthie arrived! Peggy didn’t get there for another 10 minutes! 😉
It was super intense but I’d much rather it be quick!
This time I wanted to have worship music playing during the labor and I had put together a playlist earlier in the week. After reading Redeeming Childbirth there was a lot I wanted to change about how I viewed labor and how I persevered when I felt like I was all done. I prayed a lot this time and the words to the worship songs were just what I needed to hear as the contractions started getting harder. I really felt like this labor was dependent on my Redeemer.
I used her list and put together a YouTube playlist which I’m happy to share the link below. This grouping of songs now has a special meaning to me, and I’ve enjoyed replaying the songs through the last 3 days and just remembering the miracle of birth!
I also remember that as soon as Xanthie was born I heard this song Beautiful by Kari Jobe playing in the background. The words were wonderful and so meaningful.
God met me in my need as I labored Xanthie into this world. He was so faithful to me to provide the strength needed to get through. I also feel like the spiritual high of this birth has overflown into the last 3 days as well. I still marvel at His goodness and mercy in giving us another girl who safely entered this world! So many things can go wrong in pregnancy and birth and yet what a gift was given to us with a healthy pregnancy and safe birth and healthy baby! What a good and precious gift!
I’m also so thankful for the midwives and their vote of confidence and for Michelle Price who was there as well. She ended up hosting a get together of old friends Monday evening for close to 30 people and yet she gave up her whole morning to come witness the miracle of birth! She put her plans for the day aside to serve and encourage us. She also made us and the midwives breakfast which was fantastic and also fixed a lunch for Brian and I to eat later on that day. But most of all she was there with encouraging words and with prayers to our faithful God who also heard her and answered.
But lastly, and certainly not least my wonderful husband who cheerfully got up at 5am to quickly get the pool filled and do whatever he could to serve and care for me as I progressed through this labor. He was so encouraging and knew what words I needed to hear. He worked hard and quickly to get things together and then cared for me as the end neared. I always love to see the joy and excitement in him as the end nears and as the baby joins us! I couldn’t have asked for a better man. God knew my needs and provided a man to suit that perfectly.
I’m still in awe at the miracle of birth and rejoicing in the daughter that has newly joined our family. Thank you for rejoicing with us!