Loving Our Kids on Purpose

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By Danny Silk

I decided to go ahead and try to complete one of my other goals for 2014 which is to read at least one book on parenting this year. I went to a homeschool curriculum sale recently and found this book. The mother selling it said the ideas and concepts, for her, were revolutionary and really changed the way she related to and parented her children.

Hmm… that’s a pretty good review and she was only selling the DVD presentation and book for $6. Seems worth it to give it a try! Brian and I watched the first session together and thought it was good, but not great. We also questioned some of his theology in the process.

I did read the whole book and I wouldn’t really recommend it. There was quite a bit I didn’t necessarily agree with, especially Silk’s view of God and His relationship to humanity, parents and children. Even though I didn’t like the book as a whole, there were two big concepts that have been helpful for me.

1. “Yellow trucking” your children.DSC00381

This photo illustrates what I will try to explain. The basic concept is bulling or top downing our children into doing what we want them to do. Punishing to get the behavior we desire. Giving strict boundaries on behavior for behaviors sake and not getting at the heart of the issue.

This was a good reminder to me. I needed the swift kick in the pants to stop having a god complex and telling my children what to do because it’s what I, as self appointed god, think they need to do. There are areas that need a strong hand, but most areas of life are options and have a lot of God given freedom… we need to train and help our children manage the freedom they have in Christ.

That leads me to the second point.

2. Giving your children choices and options instead of demanding absolute, but passive obedience.

I personally think he took this one too far, although the idea has really helped me with Aisling. She is strong willed and often fights or pushes back on everything we tell her to do.  I’ve realized that I don’t need to make our relationship a war zone. I need to connect with her and meet her where she is. There are many areas that she needs to learn to obey, like “Stop, there is a car in the street.” But there are other areas that I need to offer her more choices. “Aisling would you like to wear the blue shirt or the purple shirt today?” instead of “Here, Aisling, put this on.”

As I’ve started to use this manor of relating to her, when it’s an option, it’s amazing how much better she does. She has feelings, opinions and convictions and I need to take the time to talk to her and hear her heart. As I’ve tried really hard to do this I’ve found that not only does she make good choices (for the most part) on her own, but then when I need her to obey, she does a much better job of not only doing it, but doing it cheerfully!

So… If you can understand those points you don’t need to read the book…. but if you want more info about them or more details, then read it, but with a grain of salt. Read it with a critical eye and evaluate for yourself all that he says.

I hope you found this helpful! If you’ve read this book, or have seen his presentations, I’d love to know what you think!

 

This Burning Land

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This Burning Land: Lesson from the Front Lines of the Transformed Israeli-Palestinian Conflict
By, Greg Myre and Jennifer Griffin

This book did take me a bit to get through and I know the title can be a complete turn off at the start! My brother read this book and recommended it to my Mom and then she read it and recommended it to me. Continue reading “This Burning Land”

Safely Home

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Safely Home
Randy Alcorn

Getting a slow start on my reading list so far this year… but nonetheless here is my first completed book. I can’t recommend this one highly enough. It really was fantastic. Not only was it a good story, but it also was convicting. It made me think about my life and contemplate the way I was living and if that was truly what God wants from me. Continue reading “Safely Home”

Kids Reading from 2013

As you can tell from my reading lists, current and past, reading is super important to us. Especially for the kids. Tonchi LOVES being read to and will often spend hours just looking at books! He is just starting to learn to read and picks out words here and there, but is usually content with just looking at the pictures.1 Feb 11 Continue reading “Kids Reading from 2013”

Book List for 2014

Each year I start with a new and freshened up book list… this year, however, this list is oddly very similar to last years list. If you read the review of the 2013 book list from last week you will see that I didn’t get a whole lot of reading done this year. It’s been a busy year with new transitions for our family. Continue reading “Book List for 2014”

Book List 2013 Reviewed

As you know… it’s time for the list of books I actually read this year and then next week a list of what I hope to read this coming year! Continue reading “Book List 2013 Reviewed”

The Meaning of Marriage

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The Meaning of Marriage
By Timothy Keller

Our church offered an 8 week sunday school class based on this book. It was so AMAZING! I know that I often read lots of books on raising children and child training, but I don’t spend enough time reading, studying and working on my marriage. All of this ‘family stuff’ started with my husband and to keep it all together we need to stay together. Continue reading “The Meaning of Marriage”

Kabul Beauty School

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Kabul Beauty School: An American Woman Goes Behind the Veil
By, Deborah Rodriguez

Since we’ve a new baby (although she is now 8 weeks and growing way too fast) in the house, not much reading has been done. I say that, but I guess I really mean, reading from my reading list. I do read the Bible each morning, read through World Magazine (Similar to Newsweek but from a Christian perspective), Answers Magazine (published by Answers in Genesis), Organic Gardening (free subscription from my last renewal of my HMN membership) and other random assortment of paleo and homeschooling magazines that have been handed down to me. So I do have all that reading and then try to read some fiction and nonfiction on top of it!

But now that Xanthie sleeps for at least 6 hour intervals (her schedule!!! Not something I pushed!) at night I’m feeling more rested and am trying to pick up my reading again.

So my most recent read was [amazon_link id=”0812976738″ target=”_blank” container=”” container_class=”” ]Kabul Beauty School[/amazon_link]. I really, really enjoyed it! It is such a refreshing read of a woman who moved to Afghanistan to build and run a beauty school. She did it to help women sustain themselves and build better lives for themselves.

So many of these women don’t leave the home and the one place their husbands do allow them to go is to the beauty shop. There they get to talk and relate with other women and relax and shed some stress from their lives.

Deborah Rodriquez worked incredibly hard to set up the school and keep it running when funding was hard to come by and slow in arriving many times. She stuck it out and shed blood, sweat and tears to make it happen. Just to see how these women thrive and bloom as a result of what they are offered in this school is amazing!

There are many exciting times throughout this read! Times of upheaval, uncertainty in the city of Kabul, peace keeping troops rolling through the city, dangerous neighbors, and the authors own arranged marriage to an Afghan.

I highly recommend this book! I had a hard time putting it down. It must have been an easy read considering I was even able to read it during nighttime feedings and remember where I was the next morning. Even with bleary eyes I was able to read and comprehend!

If you’ve read this book I’d love to know what you think!

Free Cheesemaking ebook!

Have you ever been interested in cheesemaking? I have, but just haven’t had the time or money to get started. Since we have such a great resource for getting raw milk, I’ve really wanted to try a hand at raw cheese. Continue reading “Free Cheesemaking ebook!”

Free Food for Millionaires

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Free Food for Millionaires
Min Jin Lee

So the last novel I picked up I quickly put down, returned to the library and picked this one up. It’s long… at 560 pages, but it was really good… or well… I couldn’t put it down. Continue reading “Free Food for Millionaires”